dresses...Part 2!

Hello Lovelies! 

So, after spending what seems like hours looking at dresses I feel its time to take the plunge into actually trying them on. 

I have taken the executive decision to not only go and try them on, but to go alone. Why? you may ask, well dear readers the reason is 3 fold...1) I have a very limited idea about what I like, so want to take my time perusing. 2) I want complete and total control of what I try and who I show. I feel like if I take everyone with me I'm going to have to try all these dresses on and show them off. I don't want to HAVE to do anything. 3) I don't need the opinions. If they don't like it, I don't want to know. I want to have 3 or 4 firm favourite dresses picked so that when I do eventually take them to look, I already know I love the dresses i'm showing them. 

I feel like if I go first and know that I look amazing, then I will feel way more confident in myself. I will feel happier in my own skin and wont take any criticism straight to the heart. 

In terms of actual dresses, I've realised there aren't that many for us curvy girls, or the ones that there are, are all sort of the same. Okay the neckline is different and the hemline might be different but there isn't the difference in style and fit that there is in the more standard sizes. 

I've also noticed a distinct lack of shops for us to go to, and most only go up to a 24 which really is rubbish. I am a size 24ish because sometimes i can go all the way to a 30, so I am very apprehensive about going to stores and not having anything to try.. 

I have found one local shop that has one 26 and four 24's so I am hoping and praying these are big enough for me to try. 

Keep everything crossed for me ladies! 

much love xx 

Shoes!

Shoes glorious shoes! 

The one thing I've found is that given my struggles with clothes, shoes are my best friends. I love them. but they hate me. I cant wear heels. I cant walk in them and they hurt me. But for my wedding I am determined to walk down the aisle in sparkly, navy heeled shoes. 

These Shoes are from Quiz and they were £32.99. Wedding attire doesn't have to be expensive and I'm hoping to show these things on this blog. I also have my Instagram which is @weddingplanning.2021 where i am showing a lot of purchases and research. 

much love xx 

Dresses...

Hello lovelies! 

Welcome to my wedding planning blog; I am currently planning my wedding for April next year and I thought I would document the whole process; the good the bad and the stressful :) 

The biggest stress for me so far has been the thought of wedding dress shopping. As a plus size (size 24ish) mum of two, the thought of trying on a wedding dress has been filling me with complete dread and terror. Am I going to look fat? Stupid? Is everyone going to be looking at all my lumps and bumps? Are they going to get past the size of my arms and think I look amazing? All these questions have been piling on almost to the point where I don’t even want to go anymore. At one point a family member told me I needed to loose weight in the next 3 months ‘to look fantastic on my wedding day.’ That one made me feel amazing I’ll tell you! 

However! After stopping and taking a moment to breath through the panic I have come to the conclusion that I am bloody beautiful no matter what size I am, that I deserve to feel beautiful and my hubby to be is going to think I look amazing no matter what. Why should I care what everyone else thinks? It’s about me and him and that’s all that matters! Do I feel like this all the time? No. Will I feel like the self confidence has gone sometimes? Yes. But will it come back? 100%. Our beauty is not our size,our beauty is our smile and our capacity to love (but also those comfy curves that bring out the sass) so I’ve decided to love me. All of me. 

Over the next few months I aim to do a blog series around dress shopping as a plus size woman, talking to different shops, different women who are currently dress shopping and women who have previously been shopping as plus size bride. I also would like to talk to seamstresses who have worked on plus size dresses. The aim of this blog is to start a conversation about an industry that yet again is not set up for us larger ladies and to ultimately help women all over the world feel great in themselves. We should be celebrating that little bit extra not hating it. 

I can’t wait to document more of the research and looking on my journey to finding THE dress 

Much love xx